I understand we’re all busy these days. We’re so busy we compete to talk about how busy we are. However, no one wants to feel like an afterthought, especially on a first date. So if you’re truly too busy to make a simple plan for a date, you’re too busy to date. It’s that simple.Read More
Men, I’m going to let you in on a little dating secret. In today’s world of 24-hour everything, 280 characters, constant distractions and abundance of availability, the thing that will ensure you the most success in dating is effort.Read More
After years of the endless revolving door of online dating and countless learnings from this process, I'm embarking on a new venture. One thing that's become clear to me is the growing divide between how men and women communicate, especially in this age of digital interaction. And while there seem to be dozens of avenues for women to get help with dating, there don't appear to be many to help men.Read More
This past weekend I went to the Bronx Zoo and did their new Treetop Adventure. It’s essentially various courses in the trees where you challenge yourself to climb ropes, scale ladders, zip line, balance etc. The courses range from beginner to expert. I’d done some of them before and really wanted to push myself this time.Read More
Let's get real, most of us are quick to judge these days. Rarely do we take the time to give people any latitude. We immediately assume the worst or are simply too busy to even take a second to try and understand where the people we interact with are coming from.Read More
How hard are you on yourself? Think about it. The things you tell yourself in your head every day, would you ever dare to say those things out loud to another person? How often do you put yourself down or disparage your abilities or your body? How often do you feel not worthy or less than?Read More
Congratulations! You’ve done the seemingly impossible. You’ve gotten me off online dating forever (hopefully) and made me insanely and deliriously happy.Although, you have greatly disappointed all of my social media followers. But I digress.
In all seriousness, I want to thank you and acknowledge you for so many things, so I thought I would write you a letter and share it with the world. Because that’s romantic, right?Read More
Every morning I leave my building to head to CrossFit. I’m dressed in my gym clothes and have my enormous bag on my shoulder. I’m also usually holding my protein shake and coffee. And every morning there are people sitting outside my building…smoking. At 8am. Or earlier. Some of them have children. All are either obese or emaciated. There seems to be no middle ground. And it makes me wonder what they think when they see me walk by. Knowing I am doing something good for my body and they aren’t. Do they even allow themselves to think like that?Read More
Let’s be honest. We’re all spoiled brats. We live in a first world country where we pretty much have anything at our fingertips. We want for almost nothing. No matter what most of our incomes, we all have more money than most of the world. We have it fucking easy. We don’t walk miles to get fresh water. We don’t worry about rampant disease or unsanitary conditions. Most of us have access to more food than people elsewhere could dream of. We live in lovely homes with walls, central heating, plumbing, A/C and electricity. We literally carry the world in our pockets.Read More
I was warming up the other day at the box (That’s CrossFit speak for ‘the gym’) with a younger member and I asked him if he was doing the Open. Yes, he said, his first time. I asked if he’d been able to Rx (do the workouts as prescribed, without scaling the weight or movements) both workouts so far and he said yes. He’s only been doing Crossfit for 9 months. I told him it was amazing he could Rx already and that after 3+ years I still couldn’t Rx many things. He asked me, “What keeps you coming back?” I said, well, I’m an older athlete and it’s possible I may never be able to do certain things. But I can always get better and I can always get stronger. That’s what keeps me coming back.Read More
My former coach used to hammer this home every workout but no matter how many times he said it, I disagreed. I always felt like I SHOULD be able or capable of doing certain movements. Like my tenure in CrossFit had earned me that dubious honor. It doesn’t. The only thing that earns you anything is hard work. Consistent practice. And dedication.Read More
Food has to be the second most popular topic in any box. Walk into any CrossFit and chances are people are talking about how they can’t wait to go home to eat. Or they’re sharing what they ate last night or what they’re making for dinner. In fact they probably Instagrammed it. And while often this is something healthy, it’s also just as likely that it’s not. It might be donuts, or burgers or pizza. And that’s ok.Read More
Let’s face it, distraction is par for the course in 2017. With everything at our fingertips, it’s almost impossible to be able to do anything uninterrupted anymore. Ding, text message. Ding, email. Ding, Facebook notification. Ding, Instagram notification. Ding, breaking news. Our phones alone are wired to not allow us one moment of peace. Not to mention the constant distractions of family, work, commuting and more.Read More
It’s CrossFit Christmas. That time you wait for all year with breathless anticipation, hoping Santa, I mean, Dave Castro brings you what you asked for. But like countless children, most years you end up sorely disappointed and frankly, just sore.Read More
I don’t understand doubt. And no, I’m not a narcissist or a sociopath. I’m just me. But I’m also quite capable of acknowledging how much work I put into being me.
Let’s break it down for a second. I’ve been writing — professionally — for 20+ years. So when I pitch a job or I talk to a potential client, why would I ever think I’m not qualified or the role is too big for me? Of course I’m qualified. I’ve been immersed in this space and learning all I can to keep getting better for years. I’ve put in the work. Doubting I can do it doesn’t even enter the realm.Read More
Does this sound like you? You run the same pace and distance a few days a week. You do 30 minutes on the elliptical reading a magazine? You do the same weights and reps and sets every week. In other words you workout pretty regularly but you feel like you aren’t seeing results. Maybe you blame the monotony of your routine or maybe you blame your diet or maybe you chalk it up to getting older and having a slow metabolism. But how much effort are you putting into those workouts?Read More
I’m not fit enough to start CrossFit.
That statement is the epitome of #AlternativeFacts. CrossFit is no different from any other exercise program in that you can start it no matter what your level of fitness. Now, that said, it’s actually better than most other fitness programs for that very reason, but I’ll get to that in a bit.